As I was grinding coffee beans for this morning’s coffee, I heard a rag-tag gathering of Canada geese flying above my house. It was a nice treat, listening to them sounding in Thanksgiving with their autumnal honking.
Yesterday, S, Lil Sis and I went to Orillia to visit mom. On the way, I gave her a call — wanting to make sure she didn’t eat before we got there. When we arrived, she had dressed up in her new pants, nice navy blue shirt and light blue chenille jacket. She even had a handbag someone must have given her. The oversized metal zipper-pulls tinkled as she walked, like a delicate wind chime.
Mary, who co-runs the home where mom lives, usually greets me with tales of my mother’s misbehaviour. This time she offered “want to hear some good news?”. You bet I do! Turns out, for the first time, Mary and the staff had been having no problems with mom. She still eats cigarette buts, but that’s about it (on the plus side, she hasn’t smoked in over a month). Who knows how long it will last, but for the moment, I’m grateful. I’m also grateful that I have S and Lil Sis to come with me when I visit mom, so it’s not my burden alone.
On Saturday, we received a delivery of lovely cut flowers in a vase. I am thankful for them, or more importantly, for the sentiment behind them.
I am thankful to be here, in my house, two cats lounging nearby ,and family exercising the luxury of sleeping in.
I am thankful that I have people I love in my life, and people who love me. I am especially grateful for S’s unexpected support — although don’t know why I don’t expect it from people, especially S.
I am grateful that I live in this city, where being gay is not an issue. Where 20 women can attend a Dykes Planning Tykes course at the local Y and walk to their various homes in safety.
I am grateful to have found myself in a job where I am well respected by colleagues and higher-ups, and that pays me enough so that I can live in this expensive city.
I am grateful for my health, although I am becoming more and more aware that the reward of good health may soon have to be earned.
My life is going well, and I’m sometimes dumbfounded by how this has all come to pass. It seems I have just let life happen to me, and it somehow turned out well all on its own. When I examine it more closely, though, I realize that much of my life is made up of my choices. And it seems I’ve chosen well.
I recall the lesson my mother taught me when I was little. She set me up at a table to draw still life. A red delicious apple, a glass of water. I was a poor drawer. The apple was totally round and totally red, and the glass was shaped like a very tall letter “U”. Mom picked up the apple and showed it to me, showed me how the apple tapered toward the bottom where it ended in raised bumps, showed me the complexity of the colour, with russet stripes and small dots. The glass, she pointed out, was flat on the bottom. She showed me how to convey the cylindrical nature of the vessel in pencil and paper. In recent years, I would tell people that she taught me how to see the beauty in things – even though she cannot. But I realize now that she was only teaching me to look more closely, to SEE things. It’s my choice to see beauty.
And I’m thankful for that.